Stephen R. Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is a very good book to help people such as myself improve on themselves and improve their lives and be an all around better person. In this book Stephen R. Covey goes in depth on living with fairness, integrity, honesty and dignity. He shares personal stories and examples that some people can relate to and learn to better themselves. The first story he shares is of him raising one of his sons and trying to figure out what the right way to go about it was.
We stopped trying to kindly, positively manipulate him into an acceptable social mold. Because we saw him as fundamentally adequate and able to cope with life, we stopped protecting him against the ridicule of others. He had been nurtured on this protection, so he went through some withdrawal pains, which he expressed and which we accepted, but did not necessarily respond to. “we dont need to protect you,” was the unspoken message. “your fundamentally okay.” (p.20)
Once Stephen R. Covey stopped protecting his son from all the things in life his son began to grow and learn his own personalities and traits which led him from being the small scared shy boy to being a confident young man who started to get a bump up in his report cards and doing sports.